Posted by Sage, January 10, 2019.
The quality of any romantic relationship with a woman comes down to your ability to make her feel attraction and comfort. This is true whether you want an exclusive relationship, or whether you want to date multiple women at the same time.
Men are programmed by evolution to be attracted to young, healthy, and fertile women. It has to do with natural selection. Fertile women are, generally, more sexually attractive. In an evolutionary sense, we are naturally drawn to women with beautiful skin, perky breasts, and a firm ass. Recent studies show that a woman’s hour glass figure can affect our brains like a drug! And here lies one of the biggest confusions men have about women…
Because of these natural desires we have for a woman’s physical attributes, we falsely assume that women are attracted to the same qualities in us men.
Women aren’t nearly as superficial as us men when it comes to physical appearances. When women are sizing up a potential mate, physical appearance counts for only 25% of your attractiveness. What this means is that regardless of your age or physical attributes, your attitude is your greatest asset.
Now before I go on, I want to make something clear: Every woman is a unique person who responds differently to different types of guys. Some girls like bad boys. Some women are attracted to the confident, laid-back types. And others just want to settle down with a great guy. But beneath the external beauty of each individual woman, there are more similarities than there are differences…
David DeAngelo coined the phrase Attraction Isn’t A Choice referring to the fact that women don’t choose the type of men they’re attracted to. It’s a hardwired biological response; it’s illogical and instantaneous.
Women are primarily attracted to men of status and power. This includes men who are leaders in life and men who are successful or famous. Women are also attracted to men who aren’t afraid of taking risks: the bad boy.
So what does all this mean?
Men with low-status or self-esteem issues will always have a tough time keeping a woman attracted to him, regardless of how tall or handsome he is. It’s true that women like handsome men, no surprise there. But the real emotional trigger comes from the confidence and ambition that often go along with his good looks.
Neil Strauss, author of The Game, is a perfect example of what is possible regardless of your genetic predisposition. He’s bald, short, and skinny. But you’d never guess that by looking at the gorgeous women he’s dated.
Your physical appearance is only a problem for a woman if it’s a problem for you.
Of course, it’s a good idea to look your best. If you dress like a slob, you’ll be treated accordingly. And if you don’t take care of your personal hygiene, I can guarantee that women will be repulsed by you. But just because you’re not as good looking as the other guy, don’t assume you’re playing a losing game.
With the right attitude and beliefs, most women will overlook almost any physical shortcoming that you have. So work on improving yourself as a man – your confidence, social skills, and mindset – and your dating life take care of itself.