Posted by Sage, January 4, 2019.
“Do you have a map? Because I keep getting lost in your eyes.”
Sound familiar? Chances are you’ve probably used or heard of a pickup line similar to this.
The problem with pickup lines is that they often don’t work. Even worse, they could be causing you more harm…
The biggest issue with memorizing pickup lines is the mindset it creates. When a guy starts looking for pickup lines he’s basically telling himself “I’m not good enough for women. I need lines to get them interested in me.” Thus, you’re always searching for the perfect line to say. It’s a losing battle and women can smell this insecurity a mile away.
Am I saying that pickup lines never work? No, I’m not saying that either. The reason why pickup lines can work is not because of the line, but because of the delivery. And what makes for a great delivery is if the guy is comfortable with himself.
Guys who are truly comfortable with themselves don’t care what others think. They’re not afraid of exposing their flaws. And they don’t need the approval of others to feel good. This is real confidence.
I can give you the greatest pickup line in the world but if you don’t have the confidence to back it up, it’s going to fail. Every time.
So how do you change this?
Instead of worrying about remembering clever lines, focus on becoming a more attractive man. You do this by working on yourself.
Start by building up an awesome lifestyle doing things you love. Have hobbies you’re interested in, learn new skills, exercise, work on your fashion, and have goals in life – BIG ones. By building up an attractive lifestyle – one that doesn’t revolve around women – women will naturally want to become a part of it without you having to remember lines and routines.
This means striving to become the best version of “you” each and every day. And not being afraid to show others who you are either. Women want a man who is comfortable with himself. A man with integrity. Not someone who has to hide behind lines and routines. They can tell when a man can’t back up what he says.
So forget those pickup lines. Scrap all the routines. And focus on being open and authentic when meeting women instead.
Next time you see a girl that makes your heart skip a beat, walk over to her, smile and say “Hi, you’re very cute. I had to come over here and meet you. I’m _____.What’s your name?”
Women appreciate a man who is open and direct with what he wants. That is real confidence and WAY more attractive than any line you will learn.
And if she rejects you, that’s ok. Move on and try again. Because your life is already awesome.